作者：Dr. Rick Warren
3. 当我们害怕冒必要的风险：害怕失败会导致失败。我们担心若失败，别人会怎么想我们，所以我们甚至不敢去尝试。前职业明星运动员法蓝．塔肯顿（Fran Tarkenton）说：「害怕会使你成为输家。」当我们拒绝把握像黄金般的好机会，我们就会失败。「惧怕人的，陷入网罗」（箴言29章25节）。
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FACING AND OVERCOMING FAILURE: Part 1
By: Dr. Rick Warren
No one's life is an unbroken chain of victories. We all experience setbacks, defeat, losses and failures. Even great hitters in baseball hit safely 30 percent of the time. We all make mistakes.
Since failure is common to all of us, one of the most important life-skills you can learn is how to respond to it. Successful people know how to turn every failure into a learning experience – a stepping-stone to success.
Although reasons for failure are numerous, there are five common causes:
1. WHEN WE DON'T PLAN AHEAD: As an old saying goes, "if you fail to plan, you're planning to fail." Proverbs 27:12 says, "A sensible man watches for problems ahead and prepares to meet them.” According to the Bible, Noah had to start building the ark long before it started raining.
2. WHEN WE THINK WE HAVE "ARRIVED": Remember the lesson of the whale: Just when you get to the top and start to blow, that's when you get harpooned! Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride leads to destruction and arrogance to downfall.”
3. WHEN WE ARE AFRAID TO TAKE NECESSARY RISKS: The fear of failure can cause failure. We worry about what others will think of us if we fail, so we do not even try. Former star professional athlete Fran Tarkenton says, "Fear sets you up to be a loser." We fail when we refuse to take advantage of golden opportunities. “The fear of man is a dangerous trap” (Proverbs 29:25).
4. WHEN WE GIVE UP TOO SOON: Many times success is just around the corner. Remember that an athletic contest is often won in the final seconds. If at first you do not succeed, you are normal. Keep on going. The value of a postage stamp is found in its ability to stick to one thing until it gets to its intended destination. “A lazy fellow has trouble all through life" (Proverbs 15:19).
5. WHEN WE IGNORE GOD'S ADVICE: The Bible is the manual for life from our Owner and Creator. It is filled with practical instructions and guidelines for work, home, finances, relationships and health. When we fail to follow these, we're asking for trouble. “There is a way that SEEMS right to a man, but in the end it leads to death” (Proverbs 14:12).
Here is an important truth about failure that is worth remembering:
Failure is never final unless you let it be final. You are never a failure until you give up.
(Editor’s Note: Part 2 of this two-part series on failure will comprise next week’s edition of “Monday Manna.”)
Adapted from a column by Dr. Rick Warren, the author of numerous books, including the highly acclaimed, The Purpose-Drive Life, which has been translated into many languages and sold throughout the world. It affirms the importance of having a carefully considered, clearly expressed purpose to guide everyday life. He also has written The Purpose of Christmas.
1. If failure in life is a reality that everyone experiences, why do you think it is so difficult to accept and deal with properly?
2. To this point in your life, what has been your most memorable – or regrettable – failure?
3. Of the five common causes of failure that Dr. Warren presents, which one seems to stand out the most for you? Explain why.
4. Do you agree with the final statement, “Failure is never final unless you let it be final. You are never a failure until you give up”? Why or why not?
NOTE: If you have a Bible, consider these other passages that deal with this topic:
Psalm 20:7-8; Matthew 7:24-27; Luke 14:25-33